A Radical Look at Fear, Healing, and the Unexpected Emotions That Come With It
Fear is a sneaky thing.
It doesn’t always show up as panic or overwhelm.
Sometimes… it comes dressed as logic. Other times, it hides behind busyness, overwhelm, or even a shelf full of half-used supplements.
You’ve probably heard the phrase: “False Expectations Appearing Real.”
Some even joke that fear means: “Forget Everything And RUN!”
But when it comes to your pet’s health, running is usually the worst option.
Breathe First. Then Think.
When you’re in a place of fear, your brain literally goes offline. The heart races. The mind spirals. The logic vanishes. And suddenly… you’re panic-purchasing another supplement, doom-scrolling Facebook, and taking advice from someone with questionable credentials in a random pet group.
Our animals are so deeply connected to our hearts. They have this uncanny ability to trigger our deepest fears. Sometimes even panic. And in that state? Clear thinking becomes almost impossible.
But here’s a truth worth remembering: No matter what — there is always time for a deep breath.
That breath is the bridge between fear and clarity.
The Fear No One Talks About
Now let me ask you something that might feel… unexpected: Have you ever felt afraid of your pet actually healing?
Strange, right? But it’s more common than you’d think.
Imagine this:
The chaos is gone.
The sleepless nights stop.
The vet visits slow down.
The crisis ends.
And suddenly… you’re left with quiet. With space. With a part of your identity that’s no longer wrapped up in saving your pet.
It’s not just a physical shift — it’s existential. Who are you when you’re no longer the caregiver, the Googler, the one trying to hold everything together?
I’ve felt that too. I remember asking myself once: “What will I even do with myself if I feel all better?”
Because the truth is — chronic conditions (ours or our pets’) can become a very convenient reason to stay where we are. To avoid change. To avoid success. To avoid life.
Letting Go of Survival Mode
As Marianne Williamson so wisely said:
“It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us.”
It takes real courage to move beyond fear. To step out of survival mode and into a space of inspired healing.
Not everyone will go there. But if you’re here reading this… maybe you’re ready. Or maybe you’re feeling the stirrings of it.
Either way, that awareness matters.
Over the past 30 years, I’ve walked this path with pet parents who are trying their absolute best — and I’ve been on it myself.
I’ve learned that healing doesn’t start with the perfect protocol.
It starts with one brave breath. A willingness to question what you’ve been told. And the courage to let peace feel normal again.
So Let Me Ask You…
What if your pet actually got better?
What would that free up in your life?
What would that make possible?
And what would it ask of you?
If something in this stirred something inside you — a question, a fear, a hope — I invite you to share it.
Send me a note. I’d be honored to hear what’s on your heart. 💖
Because true healing doesn’t just change your pet’s life.
It changes yours.
